Self-regulate our emotions leads to having an emotional intelligence

Is it possible to train our minds to master emotional intelligence without being triggered by negativity?

Humans are the most fundamental species in the universe as we deal with the vast majority of mixed energy in motions called E-motions (E=energy in motion). We feel, we think, we have intuition and more… if only we are open to learning how to cultivate and master our other senses apart from the basic 5 senses we already mastered since we were born.

Understanding emotions and their vast plane of elements in terms of their natural principles is one of the most fundamental vital keys to unlocking our limited mind to the kind of mind that connects with the heart space.

I’d like to joyfully invite you to a concept beyond belief alone. But it is a concept based on the gift of our intuition. This is what we call the art of knowingness from the heart space. This is when our heart connects with our limited mindset in a coherent state of being called the heart-gut-brain coherent connection.

When our heart can feel the energy within ourselves that is sensing negative energy from the external source like fear, anger, resentment, guilt, sadness, grief, hatred, unforgiveness, and so on and forth, we feel the heaviness of our heart or uneasiness that feels sick to our stomach. What happens within our intrinsic world system, is once we feel that negativity, our subconscious mind starts to react and activates the “fight or flight mode” which is called the sympathetic nervous system.

The mind is always skeptical and will naturally act in survival mode. It also has the tendency to quickly activate the sympathetic nervous system in our Vagus nerve system, which makes you feel either anxious or have a panic attack (a fight, flight, or freeze flight mode). When a mind is unfamiliar with information, it also sends a natural chemical in our body called cortisol which is the stress hormone. This travels in our body system. If we are not careful, it can turn into an illness that leads to hospitalization if our mind only focuses so much on negative patterns of the external world that are affecting the internal world of self. So, remember that the Sympathetic Nervous system stands for ‘stress’. ‘S’ for sympathetic stands for “stress”. This way it is easy for you to remember.

However, on the bright side of things, another system in our body helps regulate our emotions if we learn how to trust ourselves to activate it. And this is called the Parasympathetic Nervous system. This system the P stands for “peace”. The parasympathetic nervous system is the “peace” hormone that helps us to calm down. It is part of our vagus nerve system. The vagus nerve system has two nerve systems and as we mentioned above: 1. The Sympathetic nervous system (the stress hormone), and 2. The Parasympathetic Nervous System (the peace hormone).

Once activated by the power of choice prominently, this parasympathetic nervous system sends neurobiological messages to every cell in our body system to calm us down with the essence of peace. By choosing peace through calmness, we activate our parasympathetic nervous system and this brings us to better decision-making, clarity, and managing stress better through understanding and trust.

I am not saying it is going to be easy. But it is worth the try learning to understand how e-motions are and what they do with our body, mind, and spirit. If we are not very careful with the choice of belief and behavior we make as we project our thoughts into our intrinsic world and the extrinsic world, we will feel stress and this stress hormone called cortisol will release any form of illness and attack the weakest part of our body that can turn either to cancer or tumor or simply a migraine or a behavior like depression and anxiety.

In summary, our Vagus nerve system with the “stress” and “peace” hormones, it is best to educate ourselves by understanding what these hormones do inside us and how we can self-regulate our emotions through the power of choice.

Apart from this very brief educational information about our vagus nerves in self-regulating our emotions during challenging times, there are, however, other ways too to self-regulate our emotions. Once we practice it as part of our healthy habits, it becomes part of our lives. Then, and only then, we master our emotions and not let emotions master us. We need to be aware of the gift of emotions that God gave us and honor those gifts of emotions as part of us. We must not suppress them as that is what makes us even more depressed, and anxious and even create illnesses that can be very damaging to our mind, body, and soul. Instead, learn how to express emotions when feeling sad or angry in a healthy way. That way you are teaching yourself how to be a safe haven for yourself and for others… this way, trust is cultivated deep within you first before others learn how to trust to be around your energy in motions.

Here are other ways of self-regulating our emotions and it as follows:

~ Meditation

~ Writing a journal

~ Go for walks

~ Grounding with mother nature (walk barefoot on grass or by the seashore and feel its energy of healing)

~ Talk with someone who has gone through adversity and thrives, because they understand the value of life better than most, and without judgment and condemnation.

~ Paint sentimental value on a canvas or simply draw a sketch

These are a few of the many healthy habits that we can apply to self-regulate our emotions with understanding. This way, we can have clarity rather than focusing so much on the projections of life’s contrast. Although contrast will always be there in the disguise of painful challenges, it has its purpose for our existence. Then again, remember pain exists for a reason, but suffering is always a choice.

It is possible for us to self-regulate our emotions by the power of our choice with strong intent, in which making sure it is within the alignment of our heart’s desire that the natural consequences of it would rather choose to experience in our lives. I know this may sound like it is easier than done, but it is worth the truth to choose wisely and consciously. Because ignorance may be bliss, but it is far more expensive and selfish if we don’t even try learning to trust to understand the core value of self-regulation of the gifts of our emotions.

I’ll say that again: Ignorance may be bliss but it is expensive and selfish, as it robs you and others of learning to trust and understand the value of life.

So, next time you are triggered by some past traumatic event, always give yourself a kind reminder to always “PAUSE” to think from the heart space to help your mind not to activate the sympathetic nervous system… this way you could start having more clarity which emotions you would rather choose to believe in and behave after the fact choosing the prominent meaning you attach to a choice of thought that creates reality.

It does help to “pause” before acting towards the choice of behavior you attach to your choice of thoughts.

These are just a few basic insights on how to start regulating your emotions. If you are ready to learn how to trust yourself with an in-depth understanding of how to self-regulate emotions with resilience intelligence, never hesitate to connect with me and book a session. I will guide you through how to understand and trust the power of Emotional Intelligence with Mental and Resilience fitness.

As always, be the light and live your truth unapologetically,

~Grace Alfafara

www.gracethroughjourney.com